Love. It is a tricky subject. Other than Jesus Christ, I don't think anyone understands its ultimate meaning.

There is this man who has been pursuing me for roughly four years now; at first he pursued me for one year then we had a relationship for a year but then we broke off because it turned out we weren't ready for each other yet. To cut the story short, he's single, i'm single and now he is pursuing me again. He's okay. I think the feelings i had for him before were just buried down somewhere in my heart and now that he wants to get back together again, my feelings are, well, resurfacing again. 

One of the reasons i broke up with him was because of lies. Not so harmful yet frequent lies. It was enough to break my trust and fear for my future if ever i ended up with him. Now that i am considering to get back together again, i seem to occasionally disregard the fact that i still fear the tendency that our relationship will be built in mistrust. I disregard because my feelings of wanting to get back with him becomes stronger by the day. However, the thing is that it becomes stronger not because of growing love, but because of all the wrong motives. 

He is a great guy, he can provide for the future that my family needs and would need, he makes me feel secure. He's near perfectly ideal. But the problem lies within me. I am clearly not ready yet. To be in a relationship entails each partner to help each other grow in all aspects of this life that God gave us; My idea of relationship is not at all that mature yet. 

I need him to wait longer. Because not until i mature should i allow myself to decide with regard to these very important matters.
 
We had a D-group discussion awhile ago about priorities. I have been trapped with an issue connected to priorities for a while and i could not help but become emotional when i shared to them about how much these issues were bothering me.

Is it a sense of responsibility or just plain egoistic nature showing? I have been battling with this question but i have been afraid to know the answers. For me, these priorities were my motivation to pursuing success because otherwise i would not be aspiring so much. 

Am I pressuring myself to do something i do not need to do? Something i think others need me to do but actually only need to prove to myself that i am worth something?
 

My kinakapatid and I were talking awhile ago about the evolution of social classes in the Philippines since his generation to mine today. He started enumerating the different social classes and their attributes from class A to class C. He said it was simpler before because when you did not own a business and lived by wages then you were part of class C, if you owned at least a small business and earned from it to feed yourself and your family then you were part of class B, and if you were like the ones who lived in mansions and threw their money in casinos yet still have lots to spare then you were part of class A. But as time went by, the divisions became more and more complicated. At first there was the emergence of class D, on which he joked was used to connote the word "dead" because those who were in class D had nothing to live by and were just plainly waiting for death to come. Then he added how class B was further divided into different class of B+ and B-, class C into C+ and C-, the differentiation could have went on and on. Then i told him that our conversation in a nutshell would just be that it would be hard to go on dividing society into social classes, society has become so complex.

So who screwed it all up? He firmly believes it was democracy that did it, i thought otherwise (although it was hard to argue with him so i just kept the thought to myself). Looking at the bigger picture, with or without democracy, humans, ever since Adam and Eve screwed up in the Garden of Eden, have been destined to entropy (entropy- moving towards destruction; one of my favorite words since highschool 2ndyear). I am grateful to have learned in SA21 the significance of food getting to our human life, it gave me a broader perspective in viewing things. Anyway, I just think that regardless of who was in charge, this continuous perpetuation of social classes that are becoming more and more complex are a given since it is our nature to grow more in terms of population and technological advancement.

On a side note, it is hard to look at the bigger picture (and talk about it with others) when most of the people you talk to face reality heads-on. Questions such as "and why should this matter to me?" and "who cares about that?" surface and it becomes increasingly hard to even see the importance of the bigger picture yourseld.